This can tear you apart inside because it is all you think about. However, it is not just yourself that you have to worry about, but it is also those that are around who are suffering because of this. You may have a lot of trouble establishing relationships as well as maintaining them.
It is even not easy to manage the physical aspect of the body because one will find that bottling up emotions will cause one to become anxious and this causes sleeping disorders, panic, stomach problems and a whole host of disorders that are unnecessary, but one just has to live with this if the person has decided not to open up and forgive.
One expects the other party to apologize for what they have done to you, but this does not always happen and this can cause more pain. One has to expect that this is part of life and it is going to happen to everyone at some point. Often one just has to forgive anyway because this is going to give you a huge sense of relief which will help you enormously.
Of course, it is not easy to forgive because of all that you have been through, so one needs to be able to heal from this ordeal before you can move forward. Often going to a therapist and talking about it is the best way of dealing with the situation. You will find that it is a slow process, but you will be making baby steps and that is the right way forward.
You may even need to forgive yourself in the case where you feel shame is a part of your life. This is really common and it can happen with something really small, such as a white lie or something much bigger like an affair. If you are punishing yourself right through life, you will never be able to live as you should and you won’t be able to get enjoyment either.
Once you have been through the healing process, you can look back and know that you are stronger than ever before. You will also feel lighter and less anxious. You will be able to love because there won’t be any feelings that prevent you from this. Once you have forgiven someone, you are almost taking the past away, but if you don’t it is as if you want to hold onto those negative feelings.
If you are rejected, whether it is something that is quite mild or you find that this is difficult to overcome in your life, you should also deal with this. You must learn that there will be other rejections in your life and knowing how to deal with this is vital. Looking at your strengths and overcoming the problem in this way is the best way forward.